Friday, 13 January 2012

Should I Even Bother Taking My Child to the Doctor for an Ear Infection Anymore?

Doctor treating an earache.

Doctor treating an earache.

Last week my son crawled into bed with us at 1 a.m. complaining of an ear ache. At five and a half years old, we've reached the point where when he complains about an earache, particularly following a cold, I know he has an ear infection. I was also sick so my husband took him to our pediatrician's walk-in hours the next morning to confirm the ear infection, and the pediatrician prescribed antibiotics but put the prescription on hold so that we could see if it would heal itself and he would be comfortable with a standard children's pain relief medication. Luckily, this course of action worked and we didn't have to put him on the antibiotics, but it made me wonder: Should I even bother taking him to the doctor for ear infections anymore?

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I'm quite content to not put my children on antibiotics. I understand the danger of them, and while I am a believer in modern medicine, I'm not the type to pop so much as an aspirin unless I really need it. But of course I also don't want my kids to be in pain. So if I know that the doctor is now recommending that the kids take a course of over the counter pain relievers first to treat the ear infection, why did I just spend $80 on a doctor visit?

"Perhaps the most surprising news is that common ear infections rarely require medication or any other action, except when severe or in young infants. "The body's immune system can usually resolve them. More and more studies show that children treated or untreated are at the same place 10 days out. We are constantly amazed at how many ear infections resolve on their own," says Dr. Robert M. Jacobson, chair of the Mayo Clinic's Department of Pediatric and Adolescent Medicine.

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So moving forward I think I'm going to start with the pain reliever first and if it persists for more than a day or two or the pain reliever doesn't help at all, then we'll head to the doctor. In this case, it was a Friday so I was glad to have the prescription available if we needed it over the weekend, but on any other day of the week, we'll be trying to treat ear infections at home. I like to stay out of the doctor's office anyway. The waiting room is a great place to pick up other nasty germs that we'd just as soon avoid.

This post was written by Sarah Fernandez.

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Women Lobby for Bald Barbie for Girls with Cancer

by Jenn Savedge, Mother Nature Network

Beautiful and Bald Barbie

Beautiful and Bald Barbie

A new Facebook page had skyrocketed to popularity and it has nothing to do with the latest starlet or rock star. The new site, started just days before Christmas, has more than 40,000 "Likes'" and the numbers are growing every minute.

The page's creators are unlikely stars as well. Rebecca Sypin, 32, is a special-education teacher living in Lancaster, Calif. Jane Bingham, 42, is a photographer from Sewell, N.J. What has brought these two women together? Cancer.

Bingham has lost her hair due to chemotherapy treatments to treat lymphoma. Sypin's 12-year-old daughter also lost her hair this year in her own battle with leukemia. In an effort to honor girls and women who have lost their hair in their battles with cancer, Sypin and Bingham hatched the idea to lobby toy maker Mattel, manufacturer of the iconic Barbie dolls, to create a bald Barbie doll. Their Facebook page, "Beautiful and Bald Barbie! Let's see if we can get it made" is racking up support around the world for the idea.

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One recent commenter wrote: "If they can make a pregnant Barbie, a Beyonce Barbie, Brittany Spears, Bieber fever, & even Obama & Michelle Barbie just because they know they will sell, They surely can make a "Cancer Battle Barbie" not only will ppl buy it because they personally know the struggle but because EVERYONE knows someone that either survived or is battling cancer now... I CANT WAIT TO BUY ONE..."

Sypin and Bingham say they have contacted the company through some general form letters but received word back from Mattel that the company doesn't accept ideas from outside sources.

A petition was started on Change.org just a few hours ago (it already has more than 700 signatures as of this writing) entitled Research and Development: Begin production on Beautiful & Bald Barbie Doll. The women say a bald Barbie would provide a huge platform to raise awareness for children with cancer. I know I would buy one. How about you?

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Talking to Your Kids About End of the World Rumors

By Jennifer Lubell, GalTime.com

What rumors are scaring your kids?

What rumors are scaring your kids?

At the turn of the century, there was the Y2K scare. Last year, Christian radio host Harold Camping issued not one but two dates where a worldwide judgment day or "Rapture" would overtake the planet. Some people snickered, others breathed a (secret) sigh of relief as each of these predictions proved to be unfounded.

But we're not off the hook yet: according to some interpretations of an ancient Mayan calendar, the end of the world is coming again, on Dec. 21, 2012.


NASA scientists have already dismissed this latest prediction, but even so, it's difficult in this computer-savvy age to hide these types of dire rumors from young children, where iPODs,Twitter, Facebook and online news stories are part of everyday life.

"Try as you might, you can't fully shelter your kids" from these types of stories, says Candi Wingate, president ofNannies4Hire. "All you can do is be available for your kids, be responsive to their thoughts and feelings, provide them information and comfort, and minimize other stressors in their world."

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Keeping that in mind, other parenting experts had the following advice for addressing these types of rumors with children:

Take their fears seriously. To dismiss the kids with a "don't be silly comment" or tell them simply not to worry is not going to help, says parenting speaker and author Kathy Lynn www.parentingtoday.ca. This sends the message that their fears are meaningless and as a result, kids may be hesitant to discuss them with parents, she says.

Turn off the television: "I believe strongly in keeping the news turned off in one's home to protect sensitive young kids from all the scariness. It doesn't help their lives to hear about issues over which they have no control, and it can be very damaging," says Tina Feigal, M.S., a parenting coach www.parentingmojo.com.

As kids get older and can go online, it's important to be a part of their experience, Feigal says. Parents should inquire gently about what their children are reading or hearing about. "What caught your attention online today?" is a good way to ask, she advises.

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Let them do their homework

Let them do their homework

Let them do their homework: If kids do discover something on the Internet, "go to the computer with them and help them find some more credible sources. Tell them about previous rumors and how they were just that --rumors," Lynn says.

Doing this type of research teaches children to check sources and think critically about what they hear, advises family physician and parenting speaker Deborah Gilboa, M.D. www.AskDoctorG.com. "The more huge and fantastic a claim, the more we should all do some of our own checking," she says.

Ease the burden: Whether a fear is real or imagined, involving thunderstorms or end-of-world predictions, Gilboa recommends that parents listen to a child's fear and then "take it off their plate" to put them back into the mindset of play and carefree behavior.

When a child is worried about hurricane season, for example, "the parent can listen to what the child thinks might happen and then say 'OK. From now on I'll worry about the hurricane FOR you, so you can go and be a kid. If you're wondering about it again just check in with me.

I'll let you know what I've learned and how things stand.' This works remarkably well, even for very anxious kids," Gilboa says.

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Blue Ivy ’s Birth Chart: What's in the Stars for Beyoncé's Baby?

Astrologist Susan Miller on what's in store for Beyonce and Jay Z's baby, a Capricorn, with her moon in loving, family-oriented Cancer

Beloved singer, actress, dancer and fashion design celebrity, Virgo Beyoncé Knowles, and her equally famous husband, Sagittarius music mogul Jay, announced the birth of their baby girl, Blue Ivy Carter, on Saturday evening, January 7, 2012. Their baby is a Capricorn, with her moon in loving, family-oriented Cancer.

Though confirming Blue Ivy's exact birth time proved difficult, I used clues gathered through various media reports to determine that Ivy is most likely a Virgo rising, so I set her chart at 9:50PM EST in New York City.

Family Life

Mother Beyoncé is earth sign Virgo, and with her baby's three earth planets (Sun, Mercury, and Pluto) in earth sign Capricorn, with a possibly Virgo rising, this little girl will always be emotionally close to her Mama. Beyoncé's natal moon is in Scorpio, blending beautifully and intuitively with her newborn's Cancer moon. This will insure a magical closeness during all their lives. This child's relationship with her father will be close too, for together Baby Blue and her father will crackle with intellectual excitement. No doubt, as she grows up, they will have plenty of discussions about various ideas and projects.

Indeed, there is ample reason to feel that both parents will contribute to this baby's happiness and development of her talents. With baby Blue's moon in Cancer, family will always be "all" for Baby Blue. She has a chart that reminds me of the qualities a first born child often demonstrates-identification with her parents, strong leadership ability, strength in her own convictions, along with a desire to please her parents, on her own terms, in a healthy way.

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Personality Traits

With five planets in earth, Blue Ivy is practical, levelheaded and will have her feet on the ground. Her five cardinal planets, including Uranus in entrepreneurial Aries, she's due to become quite a mover and shaker-she is no slacker! And with most planets on the angles, she has a very strong drive, and chances are, she'll find a way to leave her mark on the world. With Uranus in her seventh house, she will either be drawn to a powerful, highly creative self-made person as a marriage partner, or will form many creative partnerships with creative, confident, entrepreneurial business partners.

Talents, Interests, and Abilities

Will she have musical talent? You bet she will. Blue Ivy Carter has her natal Venus within five degrees of her natal Neptune, the planet closely associated with music and with all the arts. With Venus there, her greatest pleasure will be by being creative. Both planets are found in Aquarius, the sign known to forge new paths, so she'll be drawn to develop ideas in uncharted territory. The Internet, digital media, and all newly invented forms (many that we don't even know about yet and still cannot imagine) will be the areas of her focus.

With a 9:50 PM birth time, both Venus and Neptune would be found in her sixth house of work assignments, so she will direct her love of the arts--most likely, in music or film--to the many work projects she will develop in her lifetime. She could be interested in dance, painting, poetry, theatre, or other forms as well, so we should not rule those out. And thanks to her Mars in Virgo, found rising, like her parents, she will be a very hard worker.

Baby Blue's powerful Mars in Virgo is found in ideal angle to her natal Sun in Capricorn and is one of the driving forces in her chart. Like Beyoncé and Madonna, two stars with important Virgo placements as well, she will grow up to be a perfectionist. She has the ability to concentrate deeply, to focus on complex projects and to keep them all extremely organized. As she gets a bit older, she may report a photographic memory. Her passion and determination to get things done right will push her to keep polishing her projects until they are flawless, working on them long after others would have given up. This child will always have staying power, and she will like to work, and in that respect, she'll be just like her parents.

Emotional Connectivity

Baby Blue Ivy was born with her moon moving toward fullness in Cancer. This indicates she will be sensitive to the emotions of people around her, displaying a kind of sixth sense, and will be in close touch with her own feelings too. This is another quality of an artist, so no doubt she would use her emotional acuity to strengthen her artistic expressions-we will respond to them for we will identify with the feelings she will display in her art.

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Fame and Money

Full moon babies often become famous in their own right, or at the very least, appear before the public throughout most of their lives. We will be seeing lots of Blue Ivy as she grows up.

Her natal Jupiter is found in her house of "other people's money" (eighth house insuring she will become wealthy through a major inheritance.) Her natal Saturn is found in her second house of income, showing caution in spending money, and at times, she may have a somewhat irrational fear of running out of money. Capricorns are ruled by Saturn (Saturn is Capricorn's guardian planet), so with Saturn found in her second house of income, giving that house prominence, I suspect she will want to prove to her parents that she can make it on her own, and not rely on given family money for her worth. With Jupiter in her eighth house, she can, and will, make money.

No doubt financial management and discussions about money will take up a large part of her time in life. She'll feel comfortable with the role of money manager, something she'll get increasingly better at it in time. She will use money carefully, to fund the projects she's studied and feels passionate about producing.

Here is where things get interesting.

Relationship With Her Father

Remarkably, her father's Saturn is conjunct Baby Blue's Jupiter, a strongly stabilizing influence, and her natal Saturn is conjunct her father's Jupiter, so she has the same effect on her father! This is remarkable! These conjunctions give extra emphasis to Blue Ivy's two financial houses, and with Jupiter, the planet of plenty, and Saturn the planet of stability (even austerity) father Jay Z will make sure the family fortune is well secured by sharing his financial wisdom with his offspring. Capricorns like Baby Blue are naturally interested in money and power, so Jay Z will have en eager student, and she will be in sync with his concerns.

His Pluto, however, is aligned with her natal Mars, so he may take a too heavy-handed approach in his quest to teach her the value of a dollar. He will want her to take his advice without question, but as she grows up, with her Mars rising, she will have opinions of her own-and could easily rebel. It is also possible that he will take a Warren Buffet approach, not giving his child any money (some might say, too austere in approach) and that too could cause friction, even at times, resentment.

To avoid locking horns, he may want to use a more gentle approach with his daughter to keep the conversation going. (His Pluto conjunct her Mars is a hot combination of force and control, and these two planets, both in Virgo, stand only 6 degrees apart between the two charts.)

Baby Blue, thanks to her Mars placement, will be very energetic, entrepreneurial, and confident in her abilities and direction. The fact that her Mars is strong only emphasizes her possible clash with her father at times-both will have strong opinions. This dynamic tension can create great results, however, because both sides will fully present their points of view. Once they reach an agreed-upon course of action, it will be a strong one. When Blue Ivy Carter is 15, in 2027, it will be a big year for her, and it could be the time see a big result to the bubbling creativity within her.

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Baby Blue's north node (a mathematical point in the natal horoscope) in Sagittarius, she will travel a great deal, and be put in the role of teacher eventually. The north node points to the one area one should develop to fulfill her greatest destiny. Sagittarius is sign ruling philosophy and the great storyteller, a hint that she may go into filmmaking. Her father is a Sagittarian, so here's another sign that her father will have influence on his child to encourage her to think deeply. Many of those many discussions that they will have will lead to something special that she will create.

Jay Z should not worry too much about whether they will get along, for she's sure to be close to her father. Here is why: Jay Z's natal Mars is found at 22 degrees Aquarius, and her Venus is found at almost 24 degrees Aquarius, a lovely conjunction, producing a charming, magnetic and loving mix between father and daughter. The strong emphasis on Aquarius in her creative zone suggests digital media will be fascinating to Baby Blue and that will be a prime area of exploration, something they may do together.

Relationship With Her Mother

Will Blue Ivy be a style icon like her mother? Beyoncé was born with five planets in Libra, a sign that adores fashion. Libra is the zodiac's arbiter of taste, the sign most likely to decide for the rest of us "what's hot and what is not." Although Blue Ivy will be very emotionally close to her mother, and will imitate her Mom in some ways, she won't have the obsession with fashion that her Mom has shown so far in life. Blue Ivy will be more consumed with her ideas in music and art, and she'll be busy. She may just don a working uniform-classic tee and beautifully cut jeans, leather jacket, great boots-and call it a day. Her strong earth-sign emphasis favors functionality. Her Mars in Virgo will prize elegant fit, and her Capricorn Sun, will have her gravitating toward lots of yummy, beautiful neutrals.

Blue Ivy Carter will have people to see, places to go and ideas to produce-and with her powerful drive, nothing will get in her way of making her visions a reality.

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